HUMILITY A BIG MISUNDERSTANDING

Humility and timidity what makes the difference?

In our world of today, everyone demands respect, consideration/recognition not minding even if it would hurt others. When people discover those who they can order respect from; shout at, give command, they ascribe them the title of humility because they know they have full control over them. So to such people humility simply means having full control over somebody or people. Apparently for them, a humble person ought to sale their rights to become humble. If you are in this category as the controller then I must tell you, you lack humility and if you are the one being controlled then take it today you are only being timid.

Humility simply means the absence of pride hence pride is the opposite. Merriam Webster Dictionary also defines it as the quality or state of being humble.

Also because of the same wrong misconception of this concept, people see things go wrong but keep quiet claiming they do it for peace to reign… Hmmm Mr. Peace! What do you understand by the concept peace? Or rather, when the repercussions of the so-called peace begin to manifest would you be able to withstand it? To this fact, if you are under this category then know that you are only being timid or probably you lack self esteem therefore you need to work hard on yourself.

Many people whom we refer to as humble had turned up to be gossipers because they want to please others. To achieve this they don’t come out in public to address issues with the fear of losing their unmerited title. So they go about passing information to the courageous ones to help them gain more negative adjectives. One worst thing with this category of people is that they always have a lot of ideas but cannot execute them.

We often meet people who tell us, you don’t have patience, you are too proud, you lack respect not because they are really right but the pride in them cannot make them differentiate the humility from pride in essence sometimes we are too proud to know when people show us respect. So in order not to misjudge people no matter who you are, you need humility to identify humble people.

I am not saying Humility is bad; Nowise! But we need to identify true humility from cowardice, sycophancy, timidity and I am sure this would help us treat people fairly and to help them live happy lives.

Humility shouldn’t be mistaken as Timidity.

Humility shouldn’t be mistaken to cowardice.

It shouldn’t be mistaken to pretentiousness

It shouldn’t be mistaken to sycophancy.

But rather, humility gives one the courage, self confidence to do things that would bring about transformation, growth, development and what???

Say No by Mahatma Gandhi

I got this nice explanation of Mahatma Gandhi from my friends of ligsuniversity and it has helped me so much i believe you will like it as well:

“A 'No' uttered from the deepest conviction is better than a 'Yes 'merely uttered to please, or worse, to avoid trouble.

Mahatma Gandhi

The word NO is one of the most powerful and at the same times the most destructive and the most feared words difficult to say. Each of us should say the word NO almost every day to friends, colleagues, bosses, family members, etc. However, very often we try not to say it and tell ourselves that it is in our interest even though we know that it is not. If you know how to say NO and how to use it properly, it may profound and positive change our live.

When we decide whether we have to say NO, it is reasonable to ask ourselves three questions:

    Would I like to say NO?

  Do I have the power and strength to say NO?

    Do I have the right to say NO?

Saying NO is not always easy; especially if we have to say it to people that we rely on. If we are attacked by doubts, we should remember about three facts that could help us: our interests, power to say NO and the right to say it. When we match our interests, power and right, nothing can stop us. Let us remember that our duty is not to say YES to others. People should respect you even if you say them NO.

We wish you the best of luck!

Your team of LIGS University

Ooh, it pays to be pro-active

“What you do today can improve all your tomorrows.“ The most effective people and the most valuable employees are the ones who are proactive. They control situations by causing things to happen rather than waiting to respond after things happen. They don’t sit around waiting for answers to appear; they stand up and find the answers. The ability to be proactive provides a clear advantage in only in the workplace but also in life, that is why we came up with a system, how to take your initiative to your own hands. Predict. Never be caught by surprise. Learn to anticipate problems and events. Understand how things work; look for patterns; recognize the regular routines and natural cycles that exist in your business. Use your imagination when anticipating future outcomes, use your creativity and logic. Come up with multiple scenarios for how events could unfold. Proactive people are always on their toes. Prevent. Proactive people foresee potential obstacles and exert their power to find ways to overcome them before those obstacles turn into concrete roadblocks. Don’t allow yourself to get swept up in a feeling of powerlessness. When challenges approach, take control and confront them head on before they grow into overwhelming problems. Plan. Proactive people plan for the future. Avoid one-step, “here and now” thinking and instead, look ahead and anticipate long-term consequences. Don’t make decisions in a vacuum; every decision is a link in a chain of events leading to one final conclusion. In order to make the best decision, you have to know where you came from, where you are, and where you want to end up. Participate. Proactive people are not idle observers, they are active participants. Recognize that you are only a piece of the whole and that you influence—and are influenced by—the actions of others. Don’t simply react to them. Engage with them. Exert your influence and make a contribution. Perform. Being proactive means taking timely, effective action. You must be decisive and willing to do the work NOW. Procrastination is not an option. Being proactive means you have taken careful, thoughtful steps to choose the appropriate path; you’re not just reacting impulsively to your environment. Proactive people are constantly moving forward, looking to the future, and making things happen. Be one of them, starting today!

the secret of the Nigerian Church

THE SECRET OF THE CHURCH IN NIGERIA…!

The church in Nigeria  so much believe in the efficacy of the intercession of the Blessed Virgin Mary that is why she deemed it pertinent to dedicate it to her hence she is the mother of the church. So the Nigerian church will forever remain Blessed.

 Our lady Queen of Nigeria- Ora Pro Nobis.